When most people began to seek assisted living/ long term care arrangements, they focus on cost as their number one concern. Recently, I ran into a lady at one of my speaking events . She told me that the reason her mom did not choose to live at the Haven in Allyn was because she was afraid of running out of money and having to move. So, her mom moved into a facility that promised she could covert to Medicaid once she spent all her money. She moved in and the care was terrible, according to the daughter. The facility wrote in her negotiated service agreement, that they were the only one’s that could manage her oxygen. Not, the resident or her daughter. Her daughter said their was many time they did to respond in a timely manor and the mom would go prolong times without oxygen. This attributed to her mom having to be hospitalized twice. The daughter also witness, several mean caregivers on staff that made inappropriate statements regarding her mom. The mom eventually died only several months after living there, leaving the daughter and her brother a lot if money. How does anyone let their mom live in a negative, unhealthy, unloving, and uncaring environment to save money? The lady is now dead and the daughter and son are plague with the memory of their mom being poorly treated while they watched.
Some decision to move into certain facility is a death sentence. Adult children must care enough to protect their parents. Do not close your eyes. The lady in the above story did say she reported this facility several times to DSHS, which is good but her mom is still no longer here. She is Dead.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Care givers take a break Please!
I recently ran into two caregivers that do not recive regular scheduled breaks. There is several problems with this but the one problem that bothers me the most is that the caregiver is tired, frustrated, irritated, and exhausted. When this happens they are not longer patient, kind or nice to the person they are caring for. Think about it, how would you feel if someone that you depended on for everything is mean and short with you for days, weeks, or months at a time. Its not like the person being cared for can leave or move out. They are stuck there with a mean caregiver. I do understand that care giving is not easy. It takes a lot a whole lot to care for another human being. But I also know that the person being care for deserves kindness, care, and respect at all times. This is a human right and I can not bear the thought of it being violated when there are solutions. I told the two caregivers how important it was for them to get a break. I also told them if they did not get regular breaks that they would not be nice to the person they are caring for and they both agreed that they were not nice at times. Some caregivers get put on a guilt trip by family member or even the person they are caring for even suggesting some rest and relation for themselves. But the fact of the matter is everyone benefit for respite care. At the Haven in Allyn we offer this service to our community and the results are amazing. Both the caregiver and the person being cared for get a break. They get a change in routine and scenery. At the Haven in Allyn we only hire and retain staff that love people especially seniors. We love helping them to the toilet, bathing them and dressing them. We love feeding them good food and lots of good deserts. We love making the environment look good and smell good just for them. We are honored to care for them and they know it. This is very different from what they are use to. They are so refreshed and happy. The caregiver feels so good about the whole experience, that they look forward to the next time. The next time is usually within the next few weeks. Its win for everyone. All you who read this blob please encourage caregivers to take regular schulde breaks. Let them know of the wonderful services offered at the Haven in Allyn
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